Significant Others and SCDS

Here are some things I know:

  • Many millions of people suffer from and in conditions far worse than I’ll ever know
  • I’m lucky my SCDS hasn’t completely debilitated me
  • I’m lucky I received my diagnosis relatively quickly compared to most
  • I’m lucky to have fantastic resources and live in a great big city full of amazing docs
  • I’m lucky to have wonderful friends & family, and an incredibly strong, loving, powerful wife

You’ll hear from Tina soon as she’ll be posting for me before, during and after surgery. This ordeal has been an incredible burden on her. I have been forgetful. I have been absent: both mentally and physically. I have been weakened. I have been unproductive. I have been emotional, confused, and frustrated. I have been difficult. I have been off balance — literally and figuratively. My wife has born the brunt of this. She’s seen everything that the people who tell me “you always seemed fine” never saw. She’s been a take-no-shit, give-it-to-us straight,¬†relentless demander of answers. Most importantly, knowing I’m scared and conflicted, she’s been a brave warrior to my face, even thought sometimes I catch her with tears in her eyes that she is quick to wipe away.

It’s tough to constantly remain positive, helpful, patient and supportive. It’s a terrible burden to want desperately to help someone you love, but feel utterly powerless to do so. The thing is, she was never powerless. She’s been nothing but power as my second backbone, my balance-booster, and my “take a deep breath” commando. I love her, I wouldn’t be where I am without her, and having her in my life is the one way in which I am the luckiest of all.


1 thought on “Significant Others and SCDS

  1. Sherry Riddell Walters

    Tina Riddell…yes I do know her, actually knew her before you did, Brad. Since your blog today is centered around this woman, I would like to say what I know about her. Tina Riddell is, for me, is a fun girl, a sincere girl, a kind soul, an intelligent woman, a great confidante, as honest as they come, and a woman of faith.. and for you she is All those things in addition to being the great wife you deserve, a fantastic mom, a rock of stability that will keep you grounded, the greatest cheerleader you could have for your endeavors, a woman who has given you the best of herself! Tina possesses all of the qualities a “good” woman should, as well as possess all aspects of the word “beautiful” externally and internally.
    I have no doubt that she will walk with you and beside you in the upcoming journey through surgery and recovery, she will run the course right along with you.
    I have been a blessed woman to have her as a dear friend for many years, you Brad are a blessed man to have her as your wife and mother of your children…it just doesn’t get any better than that! Love you all and praying for you all through this forthcoming ordeal
    Your Aunt Sherry…


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